the hermit
When I was a teen, my closest friends nicknamed me hermit. Yes, me, the young miss who grew up to have many stories about breaking laws and exuberant partying. Thing is, even though I participated in rowdy activities, I always needed my own space at the end of the night (or in the wee small hours of the morning, as it usually turned out to be). I needed time to regroup, relax and be by myself. I am a true introvert, finding my energy during times when I am alone.
Anyway, I've noticed that as I grow older, this tendency to bury myself in my own little world has intensified. Don't get me wrong. I like people. I love my family. I'm just not always great at showing it.
So, with family currently visiting from far away places, and the delayed realization that with my mom now living here, both David and I are within short distances of most of our immediate family members, I am trying to embrace the notions of reaching out and welcoming in. Sounds awful, but this is difficult for me. But I know that maintaining relationships takes work. And this is family, the relationships that matter the most, so the work is worth it.
Today, Miles and I spent some time with David's dad who is visiting from Puerto Rico. We then made a visit to my dad's house for some quality grandpa/grandma/grandbaby bonding time. And then finished it off with a quick trip to my mom's house. Nothing like having a baby to make you realize what is important in life, and making sure that Miles knows his family members is at the top of the list.
I hope Miles will be more extroverted than I am.
3 comments:
Those pictures of Miles are so incredibly awesome. Had to tell you that :) And as for as being an introvert... I almost think parenting does that to you a little. I was never really an introvert until I became a mommy and it keeps on getting worse. BUt you're right... some effort needs to be made to each out to people- especially family. Thanks for giving me a kick in the rear to do so!
I have a hard time sharing my time. I think when you're in the midst of working full time and being a mom and wife it's hard to find the energy that's required to give extra time to others. I always felt (particularly when my kids were little) that I had a finite amount of emotional energy and I wanted to conserve it. It doesn't make for a super outgoing personality. I think I'm a loving person but I know my limits too. If I'm all over the place, I get feeling very drained.
Finding a balance is the key.
PS: we miss you and love you all.
You are too cute...I remember the names we all had...you are wonderful xoxo PS MILES IS ADORABLE
PPS The little lady and I will be in MN July 1-15th...Play date somewhere? xoxo
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